Wednesday, May 07, 2008 . 12:30 AM

Recently, i have been exceptionally puzzled about the topic of "Help".

Many people told me, if ppl needs help, they will come to me. If not, i wont go kpo.
So, offer help to those who ask, and offer none to those who dont ask.

Lets call this group of people as Group A

Someone said something that i thought was quite good. If the person needs your help, no matter how small, its significant. If the person dont need, how much you help, its insignificant.

Interesting. How do we determine if ppl need help?
Determine by if they come to you?

-Read on if you think the same way as Group A. Otherwise, i think you r quite fine-





Say, a classic example of you and your friend running on a running track. He falls down, bleeding. Leave him there and continue running? Or help him up?

Very naturally, people will tend to help him up. But did he ask for it? No? So why you help then? Issit bcoz of your hidden desire of "Aiya, if i don help, it will cause a bad impression, better not la, for my own sake, help him lo, make him have better impression"? Or issit simply bcoz you feel that he needs help?

I guess you are the latter, arent you?

Another classic example. You see a stranger, who is blind and walking with the aid of a stick. You see him walking towards the direction of a pillar. Stop him, or just let him bang the pillar?

You will help him, right? Coz its only natural.
Up till now, its all because YOU feel that he NEEDS help.

Next, this is slightly different. Your friend has no idea that a part of his character is no good, and often it leads to your other friends in gossiping and badmouthing him in one way or another. So, help your friend by asking for a change and hinting him that he's in a bad situation, or just keep quiet?

To this, i dare not put an assumption for your answer. It strictly differs.

1st example, you have 0 harm done to yourself, 2nd example, you have 0 harm done to yourself, 3rd example, theres a slight chance tt you might harm yourself.

So, help people only when it does not put you into any kind of sacrifice?
To those who refuse to help, i can understand why. I mean, he din ask help from you, so no reason to help him, right?

Now, the last example. You have a classmate who always get prejudiced views from your other friends who you know better, despite the fact tt this classmate din do anything wrong. Tell your friends that they are being unfair, or keep quiet and join them?

A hard one eh? Or issit actually simple? Of coz no lah, i mean, lets face the truth, hes a stranger leh! How can i upset my friends bcoz of a stranger? BESIDES, he nvr ask me for help. Yea, he rlly nvr did. So why help him? No point sia. He nvr ask, later he say i yue bang yue mang. Cannot la, cant help, he nvr ask.



Have you just discovered the wondrous excuses you can make up to hide and cloud your ugly self?